Consequences of dating older man
Yesterday, it was announced that singer Bryan Ferry had separated from his second wife, Amanda, after a mere 19 months of wedded bliss.
I couldn’t help but note she is 37 years his junior. For much of my adult life I had a penchant for older men. Like Catherine Zeta-Jones, whose relationships with men her own age seem to have ended in disappointment, I found the majority of my male contemporaries to be boobies, lacking in wit, experience and chivalry. Well, the Duke of Wellington became Prime Minister for the second time aged 65.
Doomed from the moment the Darling Bud Of May slipped a diamond ring on her slender finger and said ‘I do’ to a man 25 years her senior.
And Catherine is certainly not alone in falling victim to the age-gap blues.
The relationship ended soon after he decided to retire from his law practice and spend his days pottering in the garden.
Feeling the loss of his own career, he belittled mine and attempted to end it, even deleting emails from my employers.
At the time, I sincerely believed, to paraphrase Mae West, it’s not the age of the men in your life, it’s the life — or high life — in your men.
For, mea culpa, money was an attraction; when I was 30, I fell for a successful financier of 55 — the same age Michael Douglas was at his wedding to Catherine.
I saw myself becoming a carer, and worse, being coerced into a life the elderly lead; sedentary and safe, punctuated with formal soirees for his doddery friends, the wives of whom disliked and distrusted me for my comparative youth.
You may find yourself considering dating an older man, and if it’s good enough for the likes of Demi Moore and Catherine Zeta-Jones, why not you?
Here are eight things you need to consider when dating an older man.
There is a saying: ‘Better to be an be an old man’s darling than a young man’s slave.’ Whoever dreamt it up never went out with an old man.
When I poured myself a glass of wine, he called me a toper.